Although trust and communication are a cornerstone of… Synergy between parents and children, Parents are advised to avoid at all costs making the mistake of trying to occupy the role of “friend” for their children, and to cross certain limits that give meaning to their authority, in order to preserve their position within the family “hierarchy.”
Based on this hypothesis regarding parental upbringing, Tania Lanera A few days ago, she shared a powerful comment via her TikTok profile in which she asserted that, under no circumstances, she did not want her children, who are ages 8 and 9, to view her as their “friend.” “It’s funny because I also consider my mother to be one of my best friends, but “She’s not my friend either: she’s my mother.” The presenter announced.
In her video, which has already garnered over 250,000 views on the platform, Lacera points out that despite the young age of her little ones, it is essential that they understand that their mother occupies the role of “boss” within the family dynamic. “My house is a hierarchy, not a democracy. As my father-in-law used to say: On a ship, a drunk captain is better than a democratic crew.
According to him, in an institution like the family, “democracy” among its members greatly hinders its proper functioning. In this sense, the 46-year-old from Bilbao defends that it is necessary to have a personality like… “Mother or Patriarch”, The person who “knows more” and who is ascribed more “power over others.”
“So for my kids “I make it clear to you from now on, look, they are so young, that we are not friends.” Tanya stresses that, like her mother, she wishes them the best and loves them “above everything.” For her, her friends would be the other kids her age, who have “the same opportunities” and are going through the same life stage as them. ““I’m not your equal, I’m your mother.” He finishes.
However, this thinking has led to divided reactions on the networks, among users who agree that acting as “friends” to your children makes them, in some way, “orphans” And those who, on the other hand, put themselves up against the existence of hierarchical roles, especially when children become adults and must be treated as “equals.”
In this regard, the TV presenter responded directly to one of the comments, and indicated that the children’s “rebellion” against the supposed family hierarchy is part of “natural process” Of life.
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