Specializes in Women’s health and sexologythe doctor Mercedes Herrero Conde He warns against the false sense of security provided by reproductive advances: “Having frozen eggs does not guarantee a baby“.
Doctor and gynecologist and Head of Gine4 Breast Unit at HM Monteprincipelistens to women who have been searching for answers about their bodies for more than two decades. From adolescence to menopause, through motherhood and fertility, your consultation is a mirror of the rhythm in which we live.. “Taking care of ourselves means respecting our rhythms and giving ourselves that naturalness that we all have,” she says.
And those rhythms – and he warns – They don’t always fit into the life we live. “Technology, work, and time constraints have created a profound disconnect between what is biological and what is vital.”
Technology, work, and lack of time have created a profound disconnect between what is biological and what is vital.
Living with frustration
After more than three decades of accompanying women, the most difficult medical challenge she faces is living with frustration. “Not just because of a bad outcome, but when You appreciate that you could have done better. Or when you cannot communicate with the patient who… He needs treatment and refuses itamong other things. This function is a The school of perpetual humility. We must learn that we are professionals with means, not results. You can do everything right and not achieve the goal“.
Before that I only obeyed the doctor
To the question What has changed most in gynecology: women, medicine, or the way we treat the body? The doctor is clear:Before you just obey the doctor, without asking anything. Women have changed a lot, and we have become more aware of our role and We have stopped tolerating sexual behaviour which was established. It is an unstoppable process that everyone goes through at their own pace. Although we are at risk of decline in some areas.
The aesthetic pressure is much greater now. Previously, there were women who appeared on television, in movies, and in gossip magazines. They were few, always untouched and inaccessible. toSocial networks have allowed many women to show themselves as beauty modelsThey are your equal. “You might think that if you don’t reach them then you lose value.”
Social networks have allowed many women to show themselves as beauty models, they are your equal. You may think that if you don’t reach them you lose value
From consultation to social networks
“It was the first motivation Publication about sexual health. If health is the moon, this aspect is always on the far side. But then he came pandemic. There was a great need for information and networking was a very simple way to do it. The need was so great that I ignored the technical difficulties and lack of knowledge. Lots of will and desire to learn with a always clear goal: Generate information that is as clear as it is rigorous.
“I watch my first videos fondly, but I will always appreciate that they answered the questions I asked.”
Fertility: between desire and false security
“Age is still the most determining factor fertility feminineAlthough we prefer not to think about it. “From the age of 25, it begins to decline, and at the age of 35 the decline occurs, which reaches its maximum at the age of 40.“He explains.
But we live in a society like that Delayed motherhood Without conditioning their biology. “Our fertility has not evolved at the same pace as technology,” he says wryly. “From a reproductive point of view, we are still in Atapuerca biology.”
Our fertility has not evolved at the same pace as technology. From a reproductive point of view, we continue the biology of the Atapuerca
Medical advances have made it possible to preserve eggs and open up new possibilities, but Herrero warns: “Technology allowed women to preserve eggsThis is good, but we should point out that it is not a guarantee. Eggs are our largest cells and are very fragile, and cryopreservation does not always guarantee a subsequent pregnancy.
His most emphatic phrase sums up the dilemma of an entire generation: “Technology is a tool, not a substitute“.
The weight of “I have to”
The gynecologist also warns of the emotional weight that motherhood carries when it becomes a demand. “A lot of women come up and say ‘I have to be a mother‘. When someone says to me, “I have to,” I think this is not an internal desire, but something imposed.”
He calls him “Life album“: That invisible list of Expectations that determine when and how each stage should be reached. “Everyone has their own cards,” he says. “There is no universal album.” “Life takes you. It’s good to have projects, but you also have to allow yourself to flow. Otherwise it’s like a river that hits a dam all the time.”
Menopause: the last taboo
blacksmith, Menopause is further evidence of how we try to deny biology. “Many women told me:”Don’t let it be known that I’m menopausal‘. And I answer them: The bad thing did not arrive, the bad thing did not arrive.”
Remember that Spain is one of the oldest countries in the worldFor this reason, he believes it is necessary to talk more about this stage. “For years, menopause was shrouded in silence. Now it has begun to become visible and this is a positive thing. We have to talk about it without fear, so that women become aware of their health and take care of it from another place.”
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