Using obscene words, hot words, or provocative terms during sex, a practice known as foul talkhas gained more and more interest and curiosity among couples. When this type of communication is done consensually and in a trusting environment, it can increase arousal, intensify pleasure and strengthen intimacy, showing that even words considered taboo can become allies in sexual relationships.
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According to sexologist Vitor Melo, the impact of Dirty Talk goes beyond the words themselves. “Dirty talk, and using more exciting words during intercourse, can actually provide more pleasure for the couple, because it activates areas of the brain associated with fantasy. Fantasy is a direct component of arousal, and often gives a feeling of validation in a sexual relationship. When there is consent between both parties, this communication creates a more exciting atmosphere, enhances communication and increases sexual response,” he explains to GLOBO.
The expert confirms that the secret lies in the emotional delivery and intention behind the words, and not just in the terminology used.
“It is important to remember that everything must be agreed upon. Whether it is using more exciting words or more exciting terms, the couple must understand together how far they want to go. Often, it starts with a word or a provocation, and the partner’s response, such as ‘follow’, ‘like’ and a look, shows how open and allowing himself to be.”
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According to Dr. Vietor, dirty talk involves suggesting, asking, and directing, allowing one partner to lead the other on with phrases like “Say something like that” or “Have you thought about that?”
“This guides the partner and increases freedom within the relationship,” he says. It also warns of boundaries and contexts.
“It is necessary to understand what arouses the imagination, what causes pleasure, and what can be offensive or painful. In liberal circles, for example, it is common for some people to take pleasure in being called names that may be offensive, out of context. I will put it very simply: if the partner likes to be called a ‘cuckold’ and it arouses arousal in him, then, within the framework of the agreement between the spouses, this is not offensive. Now, if there is no conversation, if the relationship is not well-established and it is used Someone “the same word, without the other’s intention, can cause harm.”
For a sexologist, the central point of Dirty Talk is the feelings involved. He concludes, “What feelings do I want to convey? What feelings does this arouse in the other? When a couple understands these responses, they find what is good, comfortable and enjoyable for both of them.”