In almost every group, whether friends, work or family, there is always someone who speaks less than the others. It’s easy to mistake this silence for disinterest, but the truth is that it usually says a lot about how your personality has formed over time.
… The public speaking expert recently spoke out on this topic Roberto Pérez Marijuáninternational champion of public speaking in Spanish, who shares his analysis on the way we communicate on social media. In one of his latest videos, he stops to explain why some people tend to talk less and how this behavior can be corrected.
“In groups, there is always someone who speaks very little. It doesn’t bother, it doesn’t interrupt, but it doesn’t enter at all,” he explains at the start of the video. Faced with the widespread idea that these people have nothing to say or feel uncomfortable, the expert maintains that the reality is usually much less obvious.
One of the most common reasons It has nothing to do with shynessbut with protection. As he explains, there are people who grew up in environments where every time they spoke they were corrected or judged, and their brains learned that exposing themselves had a cost. In these cases, saying little is a form of defense.
Additionally, Pérez Marijuán explains that these cases can also be due to extreme self-demand, and that these people may consider that it is only worth intervening if the contribution is perfect. Since they cannot find the exact phrase in time, they choose to remain silent.
Another common reason is the way information is processed. “They need to observe, to understand the environment, to read the energy,” he emphasizes. The problem is that when they already have a clear idea, the conversation has moved on and their contribution is no longer appropriate. at this precise moment.
A tip to solve it
This silence can, however, have obvious side effects. The expert assures that at work this can be interpreted as a lack of involvement, in the social sphere as a lack of interest and in the family as a lack of positioning. “And that’s not true. You simply have a different rhythm,” he sums up.
@robervigo07 There is something that seems important to me about people who don’t talk much. I also think that this is something that we generally don’t take into account: silence is also a way of communicating. Sometimes it communicates respect. Sometimes, be careful. Also analysis. And many others, simply a fear. But there is one detail that almost no one pays attention to: 👉 when you speak little, others fill your silences with their own conclusions. And these are usually false: “he’s not interested”, “he’s not participating”, “he’s skipping the subject”. Therefore, if you are one of those who contribute little out loud, try this #communication ♬ original sound – Roberto Pérez Marijuán 🚀
It is for this reason that Pérez Marijuan offers advice to those who recognize themselves in this profile. If one says little due to insecurity, he recommends not waiting for the perfect sentence and starting with something minimal, a single line that allows you to enter the conversation without too much pressure. “People can’t see what you’re thinking,” he recalls.
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