In 2013 it was shown for the first time Ha, A film directed by Adam Spiegel, in which the protagonist, played by actor Joaquin Phoenix, falls in love with a woman. programming. The feminine voice of this OS, named Samantha, gave physicality to the intangibles, and against all odds, a connection developed between them. Romantic relationship. This, more than 10 years ago, was still fantasy, and seemed, literally, like nonsense, weirdness, and madness. But (there’s almost always a but).
Translated into the language of 2025, with everything we presented in this matter, the film’s scenario revolved around a love story between… Human and artificial intelligence. Now that we live in a time where the boundaries between analog and digital are becoming increasingly blurred, suddenly it no longer seems like such nonsense.
Glidden, A program Of extramarital dating designed for women, it conducted a survey among nearly 9,300 of its users, and according to its data, 24% find it easier to open up emotionally to an AI sometimes than to a person. And more numbers: up to 20% of those surveyed claim to have ever used AI For exciting purposes.
Eva Morenothe world of sex in programHe explains the order in which everything usually happens: “Initially, there is a question about something emotional and a request for help. From there a deeper connection with the person is created. botwhich can gain overtones of confidence. And it humanizes the machine.” AI also conquers you, says the sexologist, because it proves you right and always tells you what you want to hear, which is “tempting but also dangerous.” Masturbation Because what he says to you excites you and you imagine that relationship.
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“Many consider this a betrayal,” Moreno insists, and points out some positives regarding more traditional infidelities, such as the safety of doing it from home, without having to. Hide or find hotel And that artificial intelligence has no gender. “However, it is a violation of implicit or explicit agreements with your partner, if there is confidentiality, and if you give the AI time that would belong to your partner, it is betrayal,” he emphasizes. Because perhaps we dare to admit to others that artificial intelligence helps us or accompanies us, but not that we go further than that, to the point of reaching… Intimacy or sex. It is also added that secrecy amplifies emotions.
Moreno emphasizes that AI is always, always, Always available For us, it generates dopamine and is highly addictive. “It does not contradict us and this can also lead to comparisons with our real partner, with whom we may not have shared our needs. This shows how little work we have from an emotional-sexual point of view and how vulnerable and manipulable we are,” he concludes.
Although careful, AI can be a secret lover but also an ally to revitalize your sex life as a couple. It can activate desire, shared fantasies, and even “Why not open the relationship with artificial intelligence as a third element?” Reflects the world of sex Glidden. The key, he insists, is to use it to explore together.
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Several questions arise from this, including this one: “Is having a relationship with an AI considered cuckolding?” Liquid society, as the thinker Zygmunt Bauman called it, eliminates the watertight parts, also in relationships and in the universe that surrounds them. So, if we all knew what infidelity was decades ago, now it is no longer so clear.
The Center for Social Research (CIS) published the survey Sexual and marital relations In February, it found that for 64.5% of Spaniards, cuckolding involved “having conversations”. difficult Through letters, phone or social networks.” For three quarters of the population, cybersex is also considered infidelity.
researcher Gemma Mestre Bachfrom the International University of La Rioja, studied this issue with Yale University, and it results in the current borders not being defined, as he explained to us months ago in an interview on the subject: “According to some studies, see Pornography It is a form of marital infidelity for 26% of women. The decisive factors that determine it, along with specific practices, are secrecy and eroticism.”
This means that both conditions are in fact the ones that fit the current concept of infidelity, regardless of who, whom, or what is the object of your lustful desire. So, if you have a closed romantic relationship with your partner, and you have The problem with artificial intelligenceWe’re talking about centuries.
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We’re testing ChatGPT and ask for your feedback. And yes, he’s a questioner too: “There’s no one answer, because Infidelity is a social and emotional categorynot a universal law. “But there are several criteria that can help you know if this is cheating on you or your relationship.”
He adds that consideration of cuckolding depends on the pre-existing agreement between the couple, the type of connection with the AI (emotional intimacy, sexual content, confidentiality, etc.) and how we think the couple would feel if they knew. If many answers indicate yes..
It’s curious to see how ChatGPT launched this on its own Disclaimer: “The AI has no consciousness, intent, or true emotions. The link originates from the user, not the AI. However, The human feelings that are generated are realThat’s what matters in a relationship.” He recommends (because AI is a tool in our service) talking to the couple, agreeing on clear rules, and offering help to address that conversation.
Artificial Intelligence is also a guide, counselor, psychologist…
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Glidden data that 20% of participants His claims of using AI for sexual purposes may be surprising (although less so than what he did in 2013). Ha), although we have to frame it in a context in which artificial intelligence is increasingly intertwined in our lives. And we Spaniards aren’t exactly on the waiting list. In fact, a recent study by Microsoft placed Spain as the sixth highest adoption rate in the world Per capita: A 39.7% of its population uses artificial intelligenceIt follows France, Ireland, Norway, Singapore and the United Arab Emirates, analyzing anonymous usage data from more than a billion Windows computers.
This degree of AI penetration is more accessible in lower age groups. Every day, thousands of young people and teenagers around the world have conversations with someone artificial intelligence; In Spain, more than one in 10 use it Chat bots like Close onesAnd share their ideas with them, according to a report by Plan International. “Basically, boys between the ages of 12 and 21 use AI as a guide, as a co-pilot who helps them with their studies, in 83% of cases, but we see that they are increasingly using it in the emotional part, as a partner or friend, and we don’t know to what extent it is almost like a romantic relationship,” Concha Lopez, general manager at YO DONA, told YO DONA a few weeks ago and in another report. Plan International Foundation.