Historically the roles of men and women in a couple They were very marked and defined by cultural, religious and social norms. He was thought to be the provider and she was responsible for household chores and child rearing. … children and all those who organized their family life differently attracted attention and could even be questioned.
Over time, the feminist movement It grew stronger and caused a change in the social mentality, in which women began to play new roles. The normalization of work, and even in areas historically reserved for men, has led to greater equality, or at least greater flexibility, in couple relationships.
Today, it is normal for there to be large amounts of equity, but each household has its own particular organization. The question has led to many other particular situations and one of them is that, as defended by the famous clinical psychologist Antonio Bolinchessuperwoman syndrome has become widespread, details of which are going viral these days on social media like Instagram.
“They want to be the ones we admire”
Bolinches stopped by the podcast ‘Vidas Contadas’ a few weeks ago and explained his theory. “As a man is more accustomed to being admired, the admirable man “He has a lot of women who can fall in love with him.” The couples therapist says the same thing doesn’t happen to admirable women.
And as she says, “paradoxically, there are fewer men ready to admire her, precisely because they want to be the ones we admire“. Thus, Bolinches believes that the more a man achieves excellence, “the more women fall in love with him”, but the reverse is somewhat different.
“The more excellent the woman is, the more you limit your chances of finding suitable men“, says the expert who adds that they “pay in romantic solitude for their social and professional success.” Bolinches rightly regrets that being an excellent woman ends up creating a barrier and emphasizes that you should not lower your standards, your value or your authenticity to find a man at your level.
This leads, as the expert argued in other interviews on the same topic, to many women seeking lively and conscious relationships, while continuing to prioritize their lives. comfortable relationshipsand this gap can end up generating frustration, disagreement and loneliness.
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