Christmas and hangovers pass. Guilt, regrets and fingerprints are harder to erase. Therefore, waking up and looking at your cell phone in dread after a night of drinking that got out of control can be painful when WhatsApp presents itself as the painful digital memory of sending alcohol-soaked messages. Or when, when we try to remember what happened, the night is full of holes, bringing into play the anxiety of not knowing what happened. To this phenomenon, which he spoke about in 2019 in Tutor Amy Fleming, known as Anglicism anxietya compound term for hangover (hangover) and anxiety (anxiety). David Nutt, professor of neuropsychopharmacology at Imperial College London, then explained that precisely one of the common reasons why such anxiety is triggered is the inability to remember humiliating things that were said due to the decrease in glutamate levels due to alcohol consumption: “You need glutamate to create memories. And once you have had the sixth or seventh drink, the glutamate system is blocked, so you can no longer remember of certain things.”
Psychologist Álvaro Narvaiza Yturriaga looks at the reason for the decreased level of consciousness. “Alcohol impairs the normal functioning of the prefrontal cortex, an area of the brain responsible for judgment, self-control and decision-making. You may not have the same ability to anticipate consequences as when you are sober, and it is precisely the anticipation of unpleasant consequences for us that prevents us from doing certain things,” he says.
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Ana Fernández, press manager of Yonki Books, assures that excessive alcohol consumption is like removing the lock from the thunder box. “When, as if that were not enough, one does so in the company of people with whom there are unresolved issues, the combination tends to be devastating. The storm may not break, but the odds multiply exponentially. It is not uncommon that, in the midst of the turmoil, one finds oneself broaching issues one should not broach. Not because they should not be discussed, but because neither the time nor the means “Personally, I try not to put myself in a position where I know that these kinds of situations are going to happen. It’s not about hiding our heads or neglecting what hurts us, which always ends up coming out in one way or another, but about looking for a more favorable opportunity,” he explains. “Unfortunately, alcohol tends to create this false sense of security that leads us to say or do what is difficult for us under normal conditions, but just when it is least convenient for us. Then comes regret. This is a fact that is constantly repeated in the autobiographies we publish,” he says.
Among the publisher’s titles is the autobiography of Jorge Matías Vinegar. Alcohol drained my life and quitting almost filled my bank account. (Yonki Books, 2023). The author shares his opinion with S mode. “It is likely that I used this drink precisely to loosen my tongue a little, because in reality I am a fairly calm, even taciturn person. When I consumed alcohol, I said a lot of stupid things and that created some problems for me, for example, when flirting. I remember some rather clumsy “facts” on my part and what’s more, I thought I was being clever in doing so… Or I realized too late that I had messed up. The consequence was that the other person, when he saw me another night, like that, I ran away,” he admits. “At night, women are taken less seriously in general, and when they are drunk, even less so. To the point that men detect this weakness, with consequences that can be very serious. it’s considered something normal, something typical of your genre,” says the author, who published on February 4 The blue border (Altamarea), his first fiction novel.
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The psychologist, transpersonal therapist, expert mentor in advanced relationships and conscious sexuality, Patricia Sánchez, believes that we must take precedence on the issue when we talk more about people under the influence of alcohol. “You can always make amends, apologize, explain and forgive yourself. We didn’t kill anyone either! In my methodology I always work a lot with the concept of self-forgiveness, because guilt is one of the things that hurts and affects us the most. The key to being able to forgive ourselves is to understand the reasons why we did it and make decisions (learnings) to change it, if necessary, in the future,” he says. Consider that healthy, transparent, emotional and effective communication is always the best way to resolve everything. “First, I would recommend having an honest conversation with someone and then clarifying the small misunderstanding with the people involved,” he says.
For her part, Narvaiza Yturriaga comments that in cases where her patients regret having spoken too much, fear and guilt make sense, since both feelings arise from having adopted behaviors that are detrimental to the bonds that are established, especially if it is something repetitive. “So giving space to these feelings and experiencing them can be beneficial, paradoxically. Anticipating the discomfort associated with them is what will help us to be more discreet next time. Fear and guilt contain useful information for us about what we should not do,” explains the psychologist. He comments that suppressing such emotions means erasing a valuable, albeit unpleasant, learning opportunity that prevents people from fulfilling their responsibilities. “One way to do this is to explain yourself and commit not to repeat it. You also have to keep in mind that a mistake does not make the person, but it creates a pattern of behavior,” he says.
In English, there is the term drunk talker give a name to someone who eliminates the discursive filters due to alcohol, a nickname that Cecilia knows well, which she will publish soon Bury Marisol with Yonki Books and that although he prefers not to give his last name, he wanted to share his experience. “I remember inventing countless tricks to avoid responsibility for my own behaviors. And when the time came, when I had to be held accountable, I basically went to this database of lies stored in my soul to rescue the one that had served me best to camouflage myself,” he explains. “There comes a time when we no longer remember which version we told who. The lie, in the end, collapses under its own weight,” he says. “I even remember recording myself sending it to the other person, like, ‘See, I’m not lying to you? I’m recording a video telling you so you can see that it’s true.’ In short… pathetic,” she said with a certain resignation.
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The National Commission for Drug Prevention and Assistance points out that in winter, alcohol consumption increases between 20 and 30%, with Christmas being the time when excessive alcohol consumption is most common. That is why, immersed in this delicate moment of the year, it is appropriate to talk about the classic with which we began: the bitter awakening in which someone remembers that the day before, armed with that false courage that alcohol confers, he thought it was appropriate to send a message to his romantic interest. Patricia Sánchez, author of Love Without Filters: The Definitive Manual for Creating an Intense, Real, Lifelong Relationship (Culbuks, 2025), would like to clarify at this stage. “In these situations, what seems particularly relevant to me is the need we have to be liked, to flirt, and to seduce. In this case, it’s a more common behavior among women because we have associated the value we have with our ability to be liked, in large part because of what people have historically valued in women,” she says. “The best way to prevent is to work on our self-esteem, our internal validation, to learn to meet our needs and to internalize that in romantic and romantic relationships things must arise, be two-way and not sought. And, above all, work on the intention of sending these types of messages if we want to be ashamed later,” he warns.
And for the final shot, calm down. “We cannot demand the same from ourselves after drinking as from being sober,” says Álvaro Narvaiza Yturriaga. “The idea is not to fall into self-pity and victimization. Alcohol entered our bodies because we chose to, but keeping in mind that we were affected can, to some extent, help us ‘distribute’ the blame, regret or angst. In these cases, it is important to take note of how we felt, because keeping that in mind will help us dodge the bullet next time. After all, when we avoid something, we avoid its emotional consequences. It depends on each person and their values,” explains the psychologist. “There are people who choose avoidance and trust that what happened will be forgotten, and there are those who prefer to leave first with the truth and take responsibility. In both cases, we seek the same thing: to reduce the discomfort linked to the error. However, in the second case, the image we project is that of a person who takes responsibility for his mistakes, and this is a sign of maturity.”
Either way, drink in moderation, try to stay away from your cell phone, and if you’ve “stumbled,” try not to let the guilt make you bitter the next morning. Because unfortunately, regrettably, there is still no paracetamol worth…
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