December compresses time. They will be released in a few weeks balanceHe CloseThe last photo. And, almost without realizing it, a modern requirement: It’s not enough to end the year; one must show and show that it turned out well. The problem is not celebrate But the idea that the celebration has to look flawless and that the right emotion is present Luck but in a certain way idealized, complete, without stains, without cracks. A happiness that serves to be issuedperhaps lived, but important in the background.
It’s not his fault Networks socialThey didn’t invent this pressure, but they are the big ones amplifier. In Argentinatowards the end 2025 they were appreciated 32.9 million identities of social network users (71.7% of Population).
The Window permanently transforms the intimate into ranking: who have traveled, who have toasted in places glamorouswho has “closed circles”, who has shown one Family perfect. The feeling of “everyone is fine…but I’m not.” is installed in observers: a common query.
However, it is advisable to do so see detached from the topic. The Proof does not support and demonizes a simple “networks = harm” idea technology. The effects on the Welfare The number of network usages is usually small and depends heavily on network usage context and the type of use; For example, Actively participating is not the same as passively consuming other people’s content.
A study metaanalytic Over 141 studies support this data. In summary, all of these studies show the following It’s not the tool; but the way to use it. So the problem is not the technology itself, but the Model underlying emotion that has become the norm.
The question is not whether the networks are to blame, but rather: what kind of happiness are they selling us, and do I usually consume it? The ideal of complete happinessIt is a flawless, displayable happiness, optimized as if it were an organism to which foreign extensions had been naturally added.
Like any impossible ideal, it produces two effects: Fear to achieve it and shame for not achieving it. In his famous formula Baudrillard suggests that “The map precedes the territory”: That is, first the script appears (the photo, the story, the contribution), and then we try to do justice to this script (Baudrillard, Simulacres et Simulation, 1981).
The Luck perfect acts as an ideal of emotional achievement. It’s not enough to be healthy: you have to be healthy in some way exhibitableStaging takes place real well-being. This mechanism is driven by an ancient and well-known psychological phenomenon: Comparison social.
In networks, the comparison is usually “upwards”, with those who you assume are in a better situation than you. In reality, one measured by edited versions of other people’s livescertainly far from their own reality.
And if this comparison becomes habitpredictable effects occur: Dissatisfaction, feeling of vital delay, fear “catch up” and for some people a subjective lonelinesswhich means being with others but feeling outside of the group or Longing another scenario.
In addition, December is a amplifier emotional, although we see it in manifestations of Violence and intolerance we also live with more sensitivity all. Parties are traditionally expected to bring joy, but they also bring something Duels, family tensions, economic pressures and pent-up fatigue.
In one Opinion poll des American Psychological Association (APA), almost 9 out of 10 adults said they feel stress at this point for reasons like Money, absences and conflicts.
But there is one turn useful and healthy, and that’s it change the goal, Perspective: moving from chase A complete happinessand accept a imperfector, more simply, enough joy. A way to be healthy doesn’t need Performance exist. The great English psychoanalyst Donald Woods Winnicottreferred to the mother, to the need to look not for the perfect mother, but for one enough Good”
He construct of something sufficient versus something perfect, can be one of the basic attachments for a good mental health. What does “enough joy” mean? It’s power enjoy something without it having to be the answer or solution to everything; being able to be with others without making every scene a proof that “you’re fine”; I have to accept that the year has been full of light and shadow and that there are still legitimate reasons for it Thanks to.
Often in the clinic Progress It begins when a person replaces the ideal of a “perfect life” with a better one realisticmore livable, more practical and, above all, more real. A life with good moments and gray moments, with love and anger, with successes and upcoming debts. It’s not about resignation, it’s about that Maturity.
This “imperfect” happiness has one Advantage and something can be done for them. Some Examples Are:
- Delay the issuance Networks. Live first Experience without thinking about him postand publish later if necessary. This shift in the drive breaks the reflex of converting experience into content and leads to a fundamental question: “How did I experience it?” instead of “What does it look like?” Or “How many saw it or how many liked it?” In other cases, burnout occurs not because you are “in networks,” but because you are in them Networks as a constant spectator.
- Create your own little ritual. Traditional societies ordered time with Gestures: the table, the toast, visits, calls. Modernity replaced it with consumption charms. Regaining your own gesture, a walk after dinner, cooking with someone, calling a specific important person, writing about something I’m doing. thankful. In reality, these are recipes from centuries ago, but “old things work too.”
- Go from comparison, exhibition, to binding. From “How am I in front of others?” to “Who do I share or want to share what I’m experiencing with?” There are two Constructs different conceptually. When the end of the year is experienced as a ranking list, our minds judge us. When you live as an attachment, the mind is recover other circuits are more empathetically connected to the perception of the other rather than as a judge who questions us.
On the other hand, what is pretended is not processed.. Perfect luck when it works maskprevents explanation of what hurts; and what is not worked out returns irritabilityvarious emotional outbursts or the sadness/emptiness of January, when “everything has already happened” and you no longer have any new stimuli. The Luck Imperfect, on the other hand, makes something healthier possible: being healthy without denying it and despite what we lack.
It’s true, you don’t have to idealize: There are difficult families, there are DuelsThere are people who are miserable. For this very reason, the sensible goal is not ideal perfection, but a sufficient night GoodA meet possible, a closure honest and honest with yourself.
As for “overall balance,” rather than looking for the big one Verdict of the year, which can lead to cruelty Self-criticismFor example, try a degree that is also partial and perhaps even unsatisfactory Find out what made us good, what exhausted usAnd what’s worth it repeat. This work by restructuring cognitiveEven using a journal can be extremely useful. This path is not presented, but is a work program marked by Constants small decisions.
Questions that can guide us are:
- Which has always robbed me of energy and I no longer want to normalize myself?
- Which connection, action, practice, etc., no matter how small, has benefited me and deserves continuity?
- What ideas did I have about myself and others this year and what were the results? This may be an excessive expectation or, on the contrary, something that I was able to maintain and that worked well.
This type of closure is traditional in its sense. That means, Order, thank, recognize limits and on the other hand it is like that modern and practical in its short, applicable form, without solemnity. It is also more compatible with a current real adult life in which there is everything: work, fatigue, conflicts, insecurity, and that does not mean that it is synonymous with unhappiness.
As for the holidays, A “good enough” night is worth more than 20 perfectly edited posts/photos. The latter leaves behind the hangover and the noise of inauthenticity that inevitably assails us at some point. The above leaves Memories realnot images and illusory representations. And it probably won’t be perfect, but maybe that’s the guarantee that it’s real.
And that’s more than enough for such an intense end to the year.
It’s enough.
* Doctor Enrique De Rosa Alabaster specializes in mental health issues. He is a psychiatrist, neurologist, sexologist and forensic pathologist.
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