Who is the Brazilian DJ who discovered she was Melusian and explains the impact of music on her relationships

Brazilian Sheila Santos34, based in London with a growing career on the international scene, recently revealed that she identifies as a melopsychologist, a term used informally in online communities to describe people whose attractions and romantic interests are directly influenced by music. This discovery occurred during a therapeutic process, when she realized that what had always ruined her relationships was not her intense DJ routines, but a lack of musical harmony with her partners.

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Sheila says she spent years without understanding why she suddenly lost interest in relationships. Revisiting previous experiences, he realized that the disconnect appeared exactly when there was no musical exchange. For her, performing the song was always an intimate gesture, almost a sign of vulnerability. “I showed a song that gave me goosebumps and the person responded with ‘cool’. That completely frustrated me. I thought it was overkill, but it wasn’t. It was a lack of melody,” he told GLOBO.

This idea came when DJ commented on this recurring pattern with her therapist. The professional suggested that she look for emotional connections through music. In these searches, Sheila found descriptions that reflected her own experiences and came across the term melosexual. She explains that at that moment, all the pieces fell into place. When she read reports of people also being drawn to the way someone vibrates to the song, sensitivity to rhythm, and emotional connection to sound, she recognized herself immediately.

The DJ, who studied at Point Blanc School of Music and plays primarily afrohouse and afrotech, explains that her musical sensibilities have always guided her emotions, even when she didn’t realize it. “I tried to ignore it, I thought it didn’t matter, but it was precisely what guided everything. My emotional thermometer was always the music,” he says.

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Since sharing her discovery, Sheila has received messages from people who empathize with the experience. Some reported similar patterns in their own lives, demonstrating that sexual orientation, although not a clinical term, served as a tool for self-understanding for many people living relationships shaped by music.

For her, understanding sexual orientation was a liberating process. “When you understand what moves you, you stop insisting on what doesn’t make sense,” he concludes. “Discovering this has helped me recognize the kind of relationship that truly touches me and transforms me.”