The ways in which new generations seek to build and end emotional connections is undergoing a comprehensive transformation. What was once defined within “traditional” schemes such as courtship, formal couples, and long-term commitment are today in many cases experienced with greater fluidity and ambiguity. New terms such as Shadows, Love bombing, Position also Bread crumbs They continue to describe new or resigned practices.
Another concept widely used by young people is “ick“, that short word The Cambridge Dictionary describes it as “a sudden feeling that you no longer like someone or are no longer attracted to them because they have done a particular thing.”
This definition is consistent with the description already given by specialists in Wellbeing LN: “A sudden feeling of rejection or intense hatred for someone in whom you previously had a romantic or sexual interest. They can be activated by minimal gestures, phrases or habits, but they generate profound discomfort.
And in the media specialized in relational psychology, such as Psychology Today It is noted that This phenomenon is not anecdotal: it often represents a turning point in attraction, changing from one day to the next, without clear logic..
When and why does “ick” appear?
According to psychologist Chevonna Childs from the Cleveland Clinic in the United States, “ick” is usually played in the early stages of the bond. “What often makes illness a problem is that they tend to be superficial problems rather than real, worrisome problems,” he says.
According to a recent study published in Journal of Personality and Individual Differences, The most common triggers are not profound character flaws, but failures in “social functioning”: An oversight, failure of timing, general clumsiness, a behavioral trait that does not conform to initial expectations. The most frequently cited examples include:
The study also found this Those with higher levels of narcissism and perfectionism were more likely to have a disgust response. and Women were more likely to identify with this conceptin addition to reporting greater frequency of feeling it. The authors suggest that this may be due to women’s “greater sensitivity to relational risk.”
It’s the knee-jerk reaction and cultural change that happens with emotional connections as well It can be interpreted as a defense mechanismPsychologist Victoria Almirotti admitted to LA NACION newspaper. “They can be ways to hide insecurities or unaddressed issues.”
some Experts suggest taking an honest look at what’s behind the ‘ick’: Whether it’s a real difference in values or just nerves, high expectations, or perfectionism. The child names the following strategies to reduce discomfort: