Lily Allen’s most commented, musical and critically acclaimed divorce on earth has left behind a lauded album and a vengeful comeback accompanied by musical scores, confirming that infidelity in our day has different faces and meanings. Social networks, messaging applications and social media applications open a parallel world of virtual adventures that for some are more harmful than physical adventures. Manuel Jaboa wrote this in a column titled There are more holes in a good nightwritten after a friend told me he spent months talking to a woman via text every day. “But we don’t get used to it, that’s not all. I respect my girlfriend,” I pointed out to my friend as a question.
Where else could there be spaces? When the ways of communicating with others are infinite and private, and we have direct access to an infinite number of photos and videos, whether familiar or unknown, whether of mundane content, suggestive or explicit, how does this fit in? Totem Revolution In the concept of loyalty in 2025?
Betrayal 3.0
Valerie Tasso, sexologist, writer and ambassador to Spain LiloICON explains that infidelity has always been a social concept rather than a biological or legal one and its definition changes with culture. “The digital world has accelerated this transformation and is now creating scenarios that did not exist before. These new digital spaces, such as Onlyfans or ChatGPT, add new issues and problems: there is always a problem.” last “On the other hand, there is always reciprocity, there is always romantic intent.”
“What is betrayed is not the body, but emotional intimacy, the most vulnerable, deepest, and most important part of the bond.”
“In content like OnlyFans, for example, the act itself is passive consumption, but it can be more personal if there are private messages or a virtual relationship. So, can you talk about infidelity, even if there are no shared genitals? I think technology does not define the concept of infidelity: Son las parejas las que lo hacen y que deben defines your boundaries,” Dice. Because by deduction, conversation is key to assessing what each person understands as infidelity.
“Since OnlyFans makes the relationship between viewer and creator so immediate, new difficult questions arise for couples to consider, as the couple sends direct messages to the creator regarding how much money they are spending,” Write Pieces Magdalene J. Taylor. “The whole thing may be complicated, but it is precisely these questions that have led to the identification of a very contemporary relational dilemma and its lack of a definitive answer: Is using OnlyFans infidelity?” he asks. But let’s take a look at a little more from OnlyFans (which, in addition, since it uses professional chats to impersonate its most popular users when they are not in the mood to respond to their fans, can be the equivalent of chatting with bots): She’s charla with someone else, who your husband doesn’t know, and this seems too intimate, one betrayal? Does he watch pornography on a regular basis? Is it an exchange of images that, although not explicit, are suggestive? Are you telling secrets or marital matters that should remain private? Have you suddenly been thinking more about that person on the other side of the screen?
This harmless “like”.
Iratex Lopez, public health psychologist and director Eratex Lopez PsychologyHe believes that talking is a must to avoid misunderstanding and inheritance and gives an example: constant communication on social networks with one partner. “For some people, following a partner and maintaining contact with this person is unimportant, for others it is disrespectful and crossing emotional boundaries. I will not control, I just take care of the bond. Talking about boundaries is evidence of emotional maturity: ‘I’m here’, ‘I feel insecure’, ‘I’m for me, this is a betrayal.’ These agreements must be reviewed over time, because relationships change, needs change, and the way of dealing with a partner changes.” He explains that communication with others is changing. “Today you can build an intimate bond without moving the couch. From sending emotionally charged private messages to He loves Or interactions with intention, in esos He loves Neutral, such as those who seek connection, influence, or to be seen tangibly, and have conversations that become an emotional refuge. Technology facilitates parallel relationships that otherwise would not appear Very serious Because there is no sex, but emotionally I am violating the covenant of the bond as much as I am violating the physical misstep. What betrays is not the body. This is emotional intimacy, the most vulnerable, deepest, and most important part of the bond.
“As part of the intimacy, your interest or need for connection, or the empathy that comes from the relationship, even if in a subtle way, you erode the emotional compact.”
Privacy is a matter of respect in a relationship. Here arises the problem of respecting what each person does with his mobile phone, this direct outlet for thousands of conversations and links. As many government campaigns have reminded young people, giving your partner control of your mobile phone on the floor is a form of control that can lead to a form of abuse. Tasso believes that the limit in this swampy terrain should be determined through agreements, not through speculation. “Hence, you should know that in a healthy relationship, each person maintains a private space, even if they are deeply united. If you do not have this space, I invite you to commit to having it because it is necessary to have it, for the good of the relationship.” “The line is crossed when trying to protect the relationship ends up invading the other’s independence and privacy. The key is how you manage how you feel together in the face of that. It’s legitimate to feel insecure if your partner is flirting on Instagram or flirting He loves Or comments referring to Sheka or Chico on Instagram… But insecurity does not justify spying.”
Lara FerreroThe psychologist and expert in peer therapy considers digital records essential: together they define what is considered private, what things you are willing to share, and what belongs in each person’s intimate space. “Transparency does not mean unlimited access, and love does not show itself by revealing every message or gesture connected. He emphasizes that “respecting these boundaries is what gives emotional stability and reduces unnecessary tensions.” Remember, it is also important to understand that digital activity does not automatically mean infidelity. “Following someone, interacting on networks or consuming content always means disloyalty; often it is a matter of curiosity, imagination or just habit. Ultimately, the difference between interests and control is determined by trust: allowing the other to have their own space as well.” connected“It strengthens the relationship.”
Instead of using technology as a monitoring tool, couples need to have honest conversations about boundaries, fears and expectations, Ferrero says. “When this balance is achieved, intimacy becomes more solid and communication becomes more authentic, even in the digital age,” he says.
Christoph Kramer, general manager for Europe at Ashley Madison, points to an empirical study. “While the vast majority of men having intimate relationships with someone outside of their couple constitute infidelity (85%), the definition of infidelity becomes less clear when it comes to flirting. Only 28% consider flirting with someone to be infidelity, compared to 42% who feel wronged when it happens virtually. This is an example of how the boundaries of what is considered acceptable in the real world and virtual environment have changed,” he explains. He confirms: “Another surprising data from the studio is that while 51% say that falling in love with someone else is cheating, 45% believe that the mere thought of having a profile on a dating app is cheating.”
Unfortunately, petty betrayal
Hi Queen considers it since tender He loves For the images of a person considered attractive, he has to talk in a private message with that person who has a small infidelity, a term that does not convince Iratx Lopez at all. “Use the name Micro You can minimize the action yourself and the damage it causes. If I hide you and break your trust, it won’t be the same Micro. “When we talk about micro-infidelity, we are not referring to small, insignificant mistakes, but rather behaviors that include a lack of intimacy,” he explains. These behaviors, identified by a psychologist, include maintaining private conversations with an emotional charge hidden from the couple, sharing weaknesses or problems with another person rather than with their partner, investing more enthusiasm in conversations than in the real relationship, and responding quickly and with selective affection while messages are sent from the main link. “If you’re lost, actively pursue an attraction-generating person who seeks your attention, or create parallel emotional spaces — such as accounts, chats, or digital dynamics — that the couple doesn’t know about. Infidelity isn’t about concrete actions, it’s about intent: When it comes from intimacy, your attention, or your need for the connection vacuum created by the relationship, even if done in a subtle way, you erode emotional agreement.”
Vicky Morandeira, trainer Of couples, they consider infidelity to be prescribed and varies according to gender. “For a woman, emotional intimacy, if a couple opens up emotionally to another woman, is equivalent to infidelity. It is something that does not usually happen for a man. He will defend himself if a couple finds out and accuses him of infidelity, because in general, a man considers infidelity to have occurred only if there is sexual intercourse,” he explains. However, the majority of cases of infidelity that break up a couple do not begin with a search for sex. “It starts with innocent conversations where the brain receives validation, where the person shows a more interesting personality than they would at home. connected This is the perfect breeding ground for infidelity caused by hormonal and cognitive drift,” he comments. This is a good time to remember Jabua’s words. Place the holes It’s the ultimate joke: there are more stories in a good night’s sleep than in bed while watching a series with the couple in a quick octopus, or two, with an unknown person in the elevator.
The problem is that there are now endless, explicit “good night” offers for platforms like OnlyFans, He loves With vague and specific intentions, a digital panorama facilitates betrayals without having a clear definition in reality. In the end, there are more spaces in a mobile phone than in a bar.