In recent years, Romantic relationships initiated via social media have grown exponentially. The convenience of meeting people from your mobile phone, the ability to filter interests and the speed of making first contact have made these platforms … in a common way to search for a partner.
Something that is the result of the difficulty with which socializing in a traditional way is perceived, so these applications offer a a sense of immediacy more suited to people’s needs.
With social media, geographic and social barriers are broken down, allowing us to connect with people who would otherwise not appear in our environment. With all this, new forms of interaction have been developed, from “matches” to fleeting conversations.
However, this apparent advantage also produces an opposite scenario. The ease of starting a conversation is accompanied by the same ease of abandoning it, which makes many of these connections are experienced with less commitment. In this context, professionals in psychology and sexology, such as Adrien Chicoobserved trends that explain the growing instability of these relationships.
Adrián Chico’s reflection on romantic relationships through social networks
Chico emphasized in an interview with Six, the magazine dedicated to the LGTBIQ+ group promoted by Vocento, that “someone meets someone through a social network and meets once and they don’t want to meet again because I think you’re still missing something better“. According to him, this mentality is one of the factors that generate insecurity in relationships that arise in digital environments.
Some people are afraid to commit because they perceive that there might be a better option ahead. The psychologist and sexologist adds that this constant search for total compatibility causes a form of non-conformity that is difficult to bear emotionally. He says a lot of people think, “Why am I going to stay with this person who, okay, I find him attractive, he looks good, he’s nice, but we don’t get along as well in bed, he doesn’t have the same hobbies as me…?”
Adrián Chico goes even further by emphasizing that This dynamic is based on an unrealistic expectation. He explains that people think, “maybe I know someone else who likes everything and we work well,” which nourishes the idea that there is a perfect couple which will emerge at some point on the network.
However, according to him, this belief makes us forget that “a relationship can’t be perfect And? We also have to accept the person we have by our side, with the good and the bad.“. The idea of “I can still find something better” ends up becoming a constant source of frustration.
Chico therefore raises a strong thought: many people jump from relationship to relationship and are disappointed because “the right person doesn’t appear”, to which he wonders how that person could appear if perfection “simply doesn’t exist”.
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